The reality is that motivation may vary, be higher or lower depending on the day, stronger or weaker depending on the time. The idea is not to lose it, is to know how to recover it.
I have always said that January is the month of motivation. We are all thinking about new goals, talking about everything we want to do this year and sharing tips and experiences. It is the month in which our mind makes a thousand plans on all the things that it would like to achieve, the month in which it is more motivated to make changes; but it is also the month in which he accuses demotivation the most, the strongest reality strikes and we become more aware that wishing for things does not serve to achieve them.
By the end of January we will have already realized the amount of desires we launched into the Universe and for which we have not moved a single neuron…
On the other hand, we also find the fact that the initial motivation is very explosive and drives us to carry out unsustainable actions. Sometimes we start activities at a difficult pace to maintain and we soon realize that reality is not going to make it easy for us.
The initial motivation is very explosive and drives us to carry out unsustainable actions
I do not know what your situation will be, if the one of not having moved a single finger in favor of your desires or that of losing bellows as time passes, but whatever it is today I want to share with you two points that seem vital to me at the time to maintain that motivation that floods us the first days.
Find the why and why of your motivation
When a new goal comes to mind, we rarely deepen the motive that has led us to want it or the gain we will get when we reach it. We simply stay in the idea that we want that and, with the knowledge we have, we will do our best to get it.
To open a parenthesis here, have you ever thought that to achieve new goals you will have to acquire new tools and knowledge, and do things that you have not done so far? I tell you because if it is the tenth year that you intend to quit smoking, you will have to do something different to achieve it.
Have you ever thought that to achieve new goals you will have to acquire new tools and knowledge, and do things that you have not done so far?
I continue, we were talking about why and why.
Sometimes we want things because of external pressures. Does it sound like wanting to take 5 kg off you? Have you thought if the fact that this expression is on all the covers of women’s magazines may have something to do? Do you sound like learning English, exercising more, eating healthier, being a better person, having more patience with children, quitting smoking, drinking less, etc.? They are the most common goals along with saving, changing jobs, finding a partner and someone else.
Are they common because we all have the same needs or because in our desire to get something we wantlessly drag our circle to want the same? I do not know. The point is that it is extremely important to know the why and why of our goal, and make sure that it is something that we want and not others, because otherwise we will face an announced failure.
To know if your goal is yours you can start by asking yourself what thought led you to want that , what is the origin of your desire, when was the first time you thought about it and what was its root at that time.
On the other hand, be clear about why it will help you get back on track when you lose it. Ask yourself questions like what will you achieve if you get it? What do you get out of all the effort? Why do you want to reach that goal? Do you want to quit smoking for health? What do you want to have health for? Always go beyond, staying on the surface is not enough when it comes to maintaining motivation for a long period of time.
What feeling do you want to experience?
The ultimate purpose is to feel you somehow. I heard this for the first time from Evelyn Mezquita, a good friend and an amazing change agent. What is that feeling you want to experience? All the goals we set ourselves ultimately seek a sensation, an emotion, a state, what do you want to feel when you say you want to achieve your goal?
Security, self-esteem, trust, dexterity, strength, endurance, health, ability, peace, well-being, connection, experience … Behind every goal set there is a sensation sought. Do not stay in the wrapping paper, think about what you want inside.
Nothing, not even the most intense work with the best coach on the planet, assures you that there is not going to be a bump that tests your motivation
The truth is…
The truth is that motivation is never guaranteed. No matter how tied you think your ends are, the exercises you do, the depth of your help process. The reality is that motivation may vary, be higher or lower depending on the day, stronger or weaker depending on the time. Nothing, not even the most intense work with the best coach on the planet, assures you that there will not be a bump that tests your motivation.
The idea is not to lose it, is to know how to recover it. That is why I wanted to bring you these points, because decay will decay. What is in your hand is to raise it again, to raise you.